Don't lose hope hun, I have been here many months now and the only win I have gotten was a split bot-pick. I haven't had many loves either and I always seem to miss the mark with most in the exact ways that you have said. So at least I know I am not alone. I put a lot of effort into the names I come up with and then sometimes I see what wins and while it's against no one, I just shake my head. Mostly at myself. The simplest things sometimes. Something that would have only taken moments to come up with or are so kitschy that I try to stay away from them, are sometimes the ones that win. "Well, why didn't I think of that?" The problem, sometimes, I did but I thought that it was too 'general' and not worth the money that CHs are paying for a name. Therein lies the problem. I'm overguessing myself sometimes, but then again, I refuse to use bucket names. As I have stated before to a few, I like to come up with unique words, words that aren't always plain and simple but more fitting to the meaning, motto, etc. Sometimes CHs can get on board with that, mostly though, they do want something plain and simple. I think my hang up with that is, though, why come here then? There are name grocery stores all over the web that offer these types of names, some for even the price that you'd pay here. I guess I just like to try to offer the service that they clearly come here for. I have received loves and some feedback when I get it that tells me I should be here too, but it is a struggle, especially when I know that sometimes I feel I am not doing so well and I worry that CHs can pull up my profile and go 'Oh well she hasn't won anything whereas thispersonhere has better not pick anything of hers'.
To be honest, Jalissa, it's hard. Really hard. It takes not only creativity and imagination, but it does take a level of mind-reading/people-reading, skill, luck, favoritism (its 'crowdsourcing' -- follow the crowd, soandso has had so many wins and has been preferred this many times and via crowd mentality has better average so pick over someone that does not unless the name is really liked ((not saying this happens ALL the time, but I do know that there is no possible way this does not happen at all)) ), and many other factors and qualities. It is hard to not get burned out, especially when you see others gaining for going outside the rules or wants. But you know what? We have our own niche, our own style, our own individuality. Maybe it isn't lack of skill that hasn't seen us to success yet but maybe the opposite. Sometimes true talent takes a lot longer to be recognized and/or understood. And to be honest, I want to be chosen, yes -- who doesn't? But, thinking about it now, if it came down to it -- even though I seriously need and not only that but want this to pan out because i love it and have been told at least a few times that my submissions are worth it -- i would rather be chosen for a name that i put time, effort, creativity, imagination, research, thought, and understanding into than just a supermarket aisle type of name that given enough time anyone could have come up with. That's just my take, though.
Let me tell you this. If you've been here more than a few weeks, if you keep trying in the face of rejection, losing will, losing energy. If you come up with things that are unique and seem that you have to explain sometimes. If you find yourself on here at all hours just trying to research, come up with ideas, be whimsical, be traditional, meet all the wants and needs of the CH and so on. If you do these things then stop right now and listen to me. You belong here. Don't let anyone or anything convince you otherwise. It is those that face adversity and times of trying, times of rejection, and yet still keep going, still stay positive, it is those that BELONG HERE. It just may take a bit for you to come into your moment and your time. That's the reality of being lumped into a pot of others and like it or not, being compared to them. You might be the one and only piece of shrimp at the bottom of the soup pot, but someone is going to want you and search for you and ultimately find you. And it will be that person or those people that do that are the one(s) that deserves to and probably will appreciate you and what you can offer that much more.
So keep at it. You've been here, you're doing your laps around the block, but you're not sprinting or running and you're retaining all that energy for when you need it. Your time WILL come and when it does, it's going to feel so good and you're going to be that much more proud of yourself that you stuck it out when you could have more easily quit. Work and determination with just a spoonful of optimism and creativity will pay off, it always does -- it just sometimes takes longer than what we wish it to, but it will happen. So hang in there, you're not the only one dangling and we'll keep you company.